tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3150793468826864481.post2743560762114717057..comments2024-01-18T10:25:19.113-08:00Comments on Courageous or Crazy?!?!: Piece of My HeartCelestehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04679198379075660218noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3150793468826864481.post-63011520806442478232012-08-22T13:21:07.164-07:002012-08-22T13:21:07.164-07:00Hey Girls - Thanks so much for sharing your though...Hey Girls - Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and ideas. Oh yes, I have had my fair share of days where all three of us were crying at the same time. (With Tyler looking at me sympathetically and Dash guiltily sneaking up to the 3rd floor to get some peace and quiet away from the drama). I think one of the factors that made it easier on me to return to work (and by the same token, makes it a little more challenging being at home) is my daughter's personality (and as time progresses, I believe my son may be the same way). She is very social and always enjoys being around lots of people. She attends an English-Dutch pre-school on Monday and Thursday mornings for a few hours and they just completed a summer vacation of 6 weeks. This past Monday as I was dropping her off at school I was almost crying, but SHE was fine. So with that, I think each child/mom/family creates a unique dynamic and it takes time to figure out what balance works best for each family. (Of course, it can always change depending on the age and situation of the children as well.) Thanks for reading, I'm so glad you enjoyed and shared! Celestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04679198379075660218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3150793468826864481.post-74217965585514674862012-08-22T12:39:40.951-07:002012-08-22T12:39:40.951-07:00Beautifully written. The side effects of expat li...Beautifully written. The side effects of expat life are only seen by outsiders as frequent travel and excellent medical care. You have shared what no one knows, and I can't articulate. 'We are both facing sides of our personality which are not exactly flattering. There is nowhere to run..." It's a scary and painful journey to see yourself reacting in ways you've never experienced or expected. I can completely sympathize. Amazing that you've reflected and expressed your emotional journey so well. I'm happy you're enjoying the kids and settling in more. I've been learning it's important to live in the moment, because it's really all we have. This summer traveling with a toddler, I was forced to live in the moment. Sounds like you're doing the same. :) I wish you well, and I'll see you soon. :DAdventurous Aimsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12722715115792222623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3150793468826864481.post-40168498369807519612012-08-20T20:02:12.650-07:002012-08-20T20:02:12.650-07:00Great piece, Celeste! As a brand new mom, I'v...Great piece, Celeste! As a brand new mom, I've been trying to figure out which fits me better, working or stay at home mom. So far, I've only had a short stint in each, about 3 months at home with her on maternity leave, then back at work for just over 3 months now. I'm still trying to figure out which fits me better, and I change my mind on almost a daily basis. I thought by the time my maternity leave was over, I would either be ready to go back, or know for sure that I wanted to quit and stay at home with her, but neither was the case. I also have that feeling of being defeated almost everyday in both roles. Good for you for having household chores done and dinner on the stove by 6pm! Some days I was just lucky to get through the day without crying! Then, I went back to work and cried every day I dropped her off at daycare. At least I don't cry every day anymore, but it's still a lot harder than I thought it would be. At home, I counted the hours til my husband came home, and back at work, I count the hours til I can get home and see my baby. Now that I've got a little better handle on my emotions and hormones, and she gets more fun everyday, I HATE being back at work. I still feel guilty every day I drop her off and always feel like I'm missing something new she's doing and can't wait to get back home to her. I now know why "mommy guilt" is is such a common phrase. I feel it all the time now, though I'm sure all mom's feel that in either role to some extent. Maybe I'll never completely fit the mold of one or the other. Maybe with more time and practice, each role gets easier. I guess you just have to pick one and make the best of it. My sweet little girl definitely has a piece of my heart and I'm forever changed because of her.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345873370703888319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3150793468826864481.post-83236531276720335012012-08-17T06:37:58.355-07:002012-08-17T06:37:58.355-07:00OMG - you ARE me!! I felt all the same things as a...OMG - you ARE me!! I felt all the same things as a working mom vs. stay at home mom. I always said that they can't really be compared. It is totally different, from waking up to lunch to bedtime, it is altogether different. Now, 2 years in, I can't imagine not seeing the daily progress of my kids. I do reminisce about lunch with a friend, dropping them off and getting a coffee by myself, and even going to a gym while they are in daycare. But I wouldn't go back for double my salary. or triple. or for anything. Garynationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09660645584152084735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3150793468826864481.post-76541109957420654262012-08-16T10:10:08.740-07:002012-08-16T10:10:08.740-07:00This is my favorite post you've done so far. ...This is my favorite post you've done so far. I know so few people who have been both SAHM and WOHMs, and I keep wanting to ask you WHICH IS BETTER, as if you now have the answer and you're keeping from the rest of us! <br /><br />And I think as parents, we DO want our kids to be just like us, only better. Uh, like WAY better in my case. Heh.Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18085712930407611861noreply@blogger.com